It seems like violence against women is everywhere I look, every night on TV, all across the internet. How are we as a society failing women so badly? And why is it that we keep blaming the victims? Its ridiculous!
As a mother of daughters, I don't want to have to teach them how to not get raped as they live their lives, I want them to feel confident in their ability to say No, and have it respected. Unfortunately that's not the world we live in. We live in a world that no matter what I teach them, society will tell them that if they are raped, its their own fault, because they flirted, because they wore a short skirt, because they were "asking for it" And that is complete bullshit.
When I was seventeen, I was sexually assaulted while at work, by my sixty year old boss. At the trial, there were more questions about what I was wearing, and whether or not I was "friendly" then there were about the the actual circumstances of the assault. I was asked questions about my personal life, about my boyfriend, questions that had no bearing at all to the trial. In what messed up world is that ok? I remember feeling let down by my "trial", I felt that they didn't really fight for me, and now I know why.
I was a pretty seventeen girl, I had obviously been asking for it.
The current generation of parents has the power to shift this blame back to where it belongs. We need to change the way we talk to our children, "boys will be boys" is fine if were talking about playing with trucks or jumping in puddles, it is NOT an acceptable excuse for pressuring their teenage girlfriends, or for disrespecting women, any woman. And it is definitely not a good enough excuse as to why they couldn't control themselves around a girl in a tank top.
As a mother I will teach my daughters how not to get raped, I will teach them and I will pray that my lessons are never put to the test.
At the same time though, I will teach my son to be a man. I will teach him that a real man respects women as human beings, and that it doesn't matter if she is standing in front of you naked with " take me " written on her forehead in lipstick, if she says no, its no.
#YesAllWomen deserve respect
#YesAllWomen are human beings
#YesAllWomen have the right to say No
and its about time we start acting like it